Everyone goes through at least one karmic relationship during their lifetime. These relationships don’t last long but teach good life lessons. Here’s how you detect you are in such a relationship!
1. They follow certain patterns.
Do you experience the same issues over and over again? This may be a sign of a karmic relationship. If your relationship keeps repeating patterns and remains stagnant, you’re looking at a big red flag. The only way to grow in such a case is to let go.
2. They don’t respect boundaries.
These relationships tend to be selfish. They don’t care about healthy boundaries and only serve their own needs and interests. They are perfect for forming abusive or co-dependent complexes. If a person views their relationship as a convenience, while the other partner is invested, their relationship may be karmic.
3. They are hooking.
If one partner is not actually not in love with the other partner but more in love with the concept of love or being in a relationship (or just not being alone), this might be a sign they are stuck in a karmic relationship. These relationships tend to be addictive.
4. They are obsessive.
They are all about owning and controlling your partner. This kind of relationships makes you unable to see your partner’s flaws. Your partner becomes the center of your world. You don’t care about anyone but them.
5. They are hard to resist
Karmic relationships feel destined. You feel like you can’t survive without your partner. Being with them feels vital. You may think that you both are somehow destined to be with each other. And you don’t understand why it keeps failing. You keep trying to get them right but you and your partner fail every time.
6. They start from an instant attraction.
They are always marked by an instant connection. They usually start from what people call love from the first sight. Your partner feels perfect for you. It’s virtually impossible to find a flaw in them. When you look at your future partner for the first time, it feels like you have known them before – maybe in your past life. You become attached to them the very moment you look at them.
7. There’s dependency.
If it feels like you can’t live without your partner, you’re probably in a karmic relationship. Such relationships create dependency; you feel like being consumed by them. At one point, they begin to occupy your thoughts all the time. It’s practically impossible to be invested into something else. In some cases, you may even drop your hobbies. You become mentally and physically dependent on your partner. You hand all your energy to the relationship.
8. They make you anxious.
This kind of relationships tends to bring out your worst fears. All the things you are afraid of come to the surface. Fear of loss, fear of rejection, fear of emotional engulfment – they all become very real and very visible. You start feeling slightly anxious all the time even if you’re happily in love with your partner. Fear is always there. If you feel something of the kind, you may be in a karmic relationship.
9. They drive you crazy.
Yes, karmic relationships turn you into someone else. You stop being yourself. In some cases, you start behaving more like your partner: you start being interested in their hobbies and drop your own. You start being irrational. You start doing things that you wouldn’t normally do. And your friends and family don’t always welcome these changes. Losing your friends while being in such a relationship is pretty common.
10. They make your dark side visible.
Basically, you become a different person when you’re in a karmic relationship. They make your worst characteristics that you were previously unaware of shine bright. They are very good at reminding you how human and flawed you actually are. It may cause some issues with your self-esteem.
11. They are unpredictable.
Such relationships are unbearably erratic, unpredictable and volatile. You can never know what will happen to your and your partner. Most people like surprises but they have to be at least somewhat pleasant. In case of karmic relationships, they are usually far from pleasant. Uncertainty gets unbearable pretty fast.
12. They can push your buttons.
Karmic relationships never fail to push your buttons and turn you into someone else – someone new. Try and use them to become a better person. The main purpose of these relationships is to learn how to properly love people around you and, most importantly, yourself. Use them to learn to control your own ego and circumstances. Focus on working on yourself.
13. They don’t last long.
It feels like this relationship is forever, that your partner is the one, but unfortunately, they don’t last. They are born out of conflict and end in a conflict, contrary to what they say in fairy tales. Such relationships are extremely unhealthy and it’s not really reasonable for you to cling to them. Learn from this relationship, become a better person, don’t have any hard feelings towards your partner, and let it go.