You may find that your self-esteem is changing for the better as you work on your appearance or your reactions to others. Avoid making comparisons, stay focused on positive changes for your own benefit, and you will grow stronger more quickly.Take a break from beating on yourself. You are getting a lot more accomplished than you give yourself credit for. You would not be this hard on a friend, nor would you be friends with anyone else who was this hard on you, so what makes it okay to be so hard on yourself??